There seems to be a trend in people getting married overseas nowadays-usually in a Caribbean destination. My aunt is attending one this week. While she didn’t mind paying her fare, etc., it got me thinking about whether or not it is selfish of the couple getting married to plan an overseas wedding and invite people, knowing that those who can’t get out of it will have to pay for the flight, accomodation, transport and all the other expenses that go along with a wedding-gift, hair, etc. Your thoughts-for, against or indifferent????
I’m not making a statement either way. I’d just like to know how others feel about this.
Hallelujah to this question! I am so peeved by this trend of destination weddings. They are for celebrities, people who would be so overwhelmed by paparazzi by having the wedding in the bride’s home town, or some other reasonable location, that they choose to have it in a remote location that is difficult for nearly everyone to reach. The problem is that this trend is being embraced by the general populace, who are not able to finance the travel plans of their 180 guests. Hence, the guests are made to feel like inadequate fuddy-duddies for not spending thousands of dollars to be an ornament at someone’s dream-location wedding. It is a very rude thing to put one’s guests in this kind of a fix. Furthermore, a couple without the testicular fortitude to simply elope to a groovy destination that they love without all the guests in tow does not deserve to have these guests even attend their ceremony. Glorious Caribbean islands should be visited on one’s honeymoon, not during the ceremony. My goodness, I could write a bloody book on this topic!
Generally, people who have "destination" weddings don’t expect the guests to actually show up. They understand that for most people, the expense of the trip and the time off to travel are hardships that they will not be able to bear. They still send invitations because they would still like you to attend if you are able, and even when they know you are not, they want you to know that they wish you could.
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I couldn’t have said it better than the first answerer.
However, I’ve heard of people having these "getaway" weddings — and then getting irritated because everyone on their invitation list didn’t undergo the traveling in order to attend. Truly the definition of being a self-centered clod.
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Hallelujah to this question! I am so peeved by this trend of destination weddings. They are for celebrities, people who would be so overwhelmed by paparazzi by having the wedding in the bride’s home town, or some other reasonable location, that they choose to have it in a remote location that is difficult for nearly everyone to reach. The problem is that this trend is being embraced by the general populace, who are not able to finance the travel plans of their 180 guests. Hence, the guests are made to feel like inadequate fuddy-duddies for not spending thousands of dollars to be an ornament at someone’s dream-location wedding. It is a very rude thing to put one’s guests in this kind of a fix. Furthermore, a couple without the testicular fortitude to simply elope to a groovy destination that they love without all the guests in tow does not deserve to have these guests even attend their ceremony. Glorious Caribbean islands should be visited on one’s honeymoon, not during the ceremony. My goodness, I could write a bloody book on this topic!
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They know a lot of people can’t afford it. I think that some of them think that everyone who loves them should just suck it up and pay to come so they can have that perfect wedding. Others are probably assuming that people who don’t make it to the wedding will "make up for it" by buying an even more expensive present.
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Only those that can easily afford it. A reception closer to home for those that cannot would be very gracious.
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My daughter was considering this when she got married last summer. Thankfully, we were able to talk her out of it – for all the reasons already identified. While we may have been able to get the immediate family there, other, important individuals, (like her Grandmother!) would not have been able to and our budget didn’t allow for us to pay for everyone’s travel arrangements. She had a beautiful wedding, and everyone was able to attend, right here in her home state. Bride’s are typically narcissistic, but it is getting ridiculous!
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I think destination weddings are pretentious and arrogant. What better way to say: We don’t REALLY want you there…we just want you to know that WE’RE going…..hahahah…..I wouldn’t bat an eye at saying no to an invitation to one…no matter who it is.
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I think that the people having the overseas weddings that are inviting guest are doing it because they either feel obligated to invite those people or they would really like them to be there. I do not think that anyone that would choose to have a wedding like this would really be mad if someone choose to not come or just couldn’t attend. I never think that it is rude to invite someone to a wedding.
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